The subject of psychic and medium reading rates has come up a lot the last few months. So here goes. . .
Are my rates high? Yes. People need to see my value to want my services, and it's an energy exchange. Clients make a financial AND emotional investment in themselves and the reading by giving something of value (money), to get something of value (a great reading). In today's society, the more we pay for something the more value and worth it has to most people. In many cases this is true.
Any reputable psychic or medium should deliver everything you need regardless of their price. If you pay an expensive reading rate you should get an excellent reading (in theory). Personally, I make sure every one of my clients gets full value during their reading.
BUT you shouldn't pay a purposely over-priced reading rate that reflects somebody's ego or costly overhead, rather than talent.
Do not be mislead to believe that exorbitant rates definitely means that they're "better than the rest" with psychics and mediums. Some practitioners charge a very high rate and are worth every penny, but not all for sure.
I don't normally ever concern myself with what another psychic charges because everyone sets their own value and prices. We are all adults and capable. I'm a New Yorker in that regard - worry about yourself, and there is no competition. People will work with who they are drawn too. Simple right?
When I do notice it's because the psychic or medium, regardless of where they are in the US, is charging exorbitant rates solely because they are chasing fame and wealth, and trying to appear more 'special' or advanced by high prices. They are also doing this at the expense of their client. Not only on their wallets, but the actual readings do not reflect accurate information or integrity, and are not about serving the client's best interest. That is just wrong.
Too many clients have come to me over the last 6 months very disappointed with a really costly reading with another psychic medium, after getting a less than stellar reading. They were let down and out of that money. Most of all, they didn't get what they needed. . . accurate guidance with their issues, or real connections with departed loved ones. They can't get that time, money or effort back. They learned though.
Sometimes the "hype" is just that, someone blowing hot air at you. Once a psychic, medium or healer starts choosing to obsess over fame, power, or making money instead of their clients needs it always goes bad over time.
Some honest, reputable psychic mediums with extravagant rates are okay with only a few clients a week. Others have raised their rates to try to work with mainly wealthy clients, which is perfectly fine to work with who they want to, yet more than a few of these practitioners are losing clients and desperately scrambling for new ones. Or they're trying new avenues for income. It's not likely that they'll admit this to you though.
Someone who may have been good a few years ago can be a completely different psychic or medium today because of their focus, or lack of, on their clients. It becomes all about their ego. This causes a lot of inaccurate information in a reading because they are not a clear and concise channel for your information because they are focused more on themselves then you (and what your guides are saying). Or they can lose interest in listening to and working with clients, burning out.
If you find a psychic or medium you like with a higher reading rate, evaluate if you can afford the reading now, maybe you have to save for a paycheck or two. Getting into financial issues is never a good idea. Be clear with yourself about what you want and need.
A few months ago I decided to do a reading with an "established" Canadian psychic, I wanted some real objectivity. It's rare I even do this. It was a bad experience. I was upset that she completely wasted 10 minutes of my 30-minute expensive reading talking about things that had no relevance to why I called! I have to say that it still has no relevance.
That experience made me even more hyper-aware of listening to my clients needs and your Spirit Guides, and staying out of the reading. A psychic or medium is only a channel or messenger of the information. And hopefully a very good one.
Please choose a psychic or medium who resonates with you and you like. Referrals are great, I built my business on them, but if that person who refers someone to you has not seen that "popular" psychic in a long time, think about checking out others also before deciding.
Also, they may have made a good connection with that psychic medium during their reading, but when you look at that psychic's website if you aren't feeling it, don't call, move on.
A great reading has enormous value to you when it helps you get clarity, healing and helps you start building a beautiful life. Let that be your only guide when choosing a psychic or medium to work with.
How do we center and ground ourselves? How do we do this as empath's especially?
Being "centered" means having a reference point, a place to come back to when life, emotions and stress push you off balance.
Being centered is that kind of dynamic balance point. It doesn’t mean we are always there, it means we always know where to go back to. Being centered is feeling connected to yourself, and being aware of yourself positively and peacefully when you get temporarily lost.
Being "grounded" means that you're wholly present in your own body, and connected with the Earth, allowing you to feel centered and balanced no matter what's going on around you.
An empath is someone who is hypersensitive to other people's energy and emotions. So naturally it's easy for an empath to feel not centered or grounded when there is a lot of stuff going on around them.
As an empath, a 'centering' tool you can try is try is to turn off your empathy when you are being bounced by someone or taking on their emotions. Train yourself to be more positively self-focused all the time. Try to be in the moment and aware of how you actually feel, separating yourself from someone else's energy and emotions. This is a mental state where you are profoundly aware of yourself and your own feelings; where the inner state is louder and speaks to you more clearly than what is going on around you. Focus positively on yourself, not what is going on around you.
This means that no matter what is going on, we stay balanced, centered and aligned with our Soul and higher self and we are better able to control our reactive, knee jerk, defensive behavioral patterns of our ego. We can get back to calmness inside of us no matter what is going on around us.
Every time we make even one simple decision at a time to help ourselves, this leads to staying centered, grounded and feeling good.
Some techniques that help us to stay centered and grounded:
It's impossible for any living person, disincarnated Soul or anything to negate your 'free will' by imposing their will on you without your consent.
You would have to accept and believe that someone could "curse" you; and they "curse" you by saying you are going to have hardship with money (for example). Then YOU would have to keep making negative choices with your money and start having money problems, like a self-fulfilling prophesy. People can believe they have a curse or spell on them that's "making them" make bad choices or that they have no control over that aspect of their life, when there is literally nothing there (no one is directing anything negative at them). They become very upset and continue, by choice, to take no responsibility for what they are actually creating over and over. That is conscious choice to do this, not some mysterious spell or curse on you.
That means there is NO such thing as spells, curses, directing negative thoughts at you that can harm you, or any spirit or "entity" energetically trying to feed off of you, etc., if you do not allow these things. The Divine chose for every Soul to be self-directed and in charge at all times of the life we create by using our gift of 'free will' without negative interference.
We are always highly protected and helped by "the Divine", our Spirit Guides, Angels, and our departed loved ones. Even our highly competent Spirit Guides do not force us do anything because they cannot negate our free will, nor do they want to. So how could some bitter, self-involved person override our gift of free will with a curse or spell? They cannot.
BEWARE of any "psychic" or "medium" that you are paying, or attending a group or class of theirs who fraudulently tells you that says:
All these things listed above are all nonsense and unethical. (Note - Some people like crystals, stones, sea shells, sage, incense, etc., and I think because they're from Nature they can bring good, cleansing energy into your home)
A psychic or medium who does any of the things listed above is doing this is trying to get your money, they are fear-based in their thinking, or because it makes them feel powerful. They prey on the mentally fragile, grieving and unaware clients so don't buy it. I have dealt with many clients that I had to explain what was really going on after they went to a psychic that operates like this and tell them the truth.
You alone are in charge of your free will. You can't negate someone else's free will just because you want them back (and vise versa).
Some people unknowingly drain you energetically who are "psychic vampires" (someone who drains other people for their positive energy instead of getting it from Divine Source). A psychic vampire is that friend, family member, co-worker that you feel exhausted after talking to them for 30 minutes. All you have to do is say to your guides or think is, "I don't allow you to interfere with my free will. You cannot be in my personal space trying to drain me." It will stop, your gift of free will demands this.
People who honestly believe they are under "Demonic Possession" or under 'demonic' attack, alien influence, being taken over by some force, etc., are in reality mentally ill and not understanding what's happening to them. Or they're being told that there are these things happening to them so don't believe it! They should get away completely from the negative person saying these things, and seek professional Counseling if needed.
Can you get a bothersome or "teenage troublemaker" departed Soul doing stuff around you in your house? Yes. In reality it's not common, simply tell them to get out of your space and don't come back. They have to leave because it's your energetic space governed by your gift of free will. That means you are in charge of the energy in your home. If it makes you feel more empowered to also smudge your house with white sage or whatever feels right then do so.
Sometimes a person may not be aware that they are sensitive to spirits and departed Souls so when they sense something it scares them so they start believing it's "bad" or negative when it's not.
I have seen a people with good intentions who know they are sensitive to sensing spirits and departed Souls say they see something negative because it "looks dark" or "has a dark face," and simply because it is not clear to them they jump to the wrong conclusion that it is "bad", scary or negative. They believe if they ask who it is, or try to communicate with it they will accidentally "invite it to stay" or will be bothered by it. Those are hollywood horror movie beliefs, not real life. This is a common misconception in the Spiritual Development community.
The point to remember is that 'The Divine' chose for every Soul to be self-directed and in charge at all times of the life we create by using our gift of 'free will' without interference. Nothing can negate that.
You have 100% accountability and responsibility for your life, your thoughts and all the choices you make. You alone create your life through the choices and actions you take using your ability of 'free will.' It's the Universal Law of 'Divine Will' (free will) from the Divine that demands this.
I understand that many people don't know, understand or accept these facts about our 'free will' as Truth, and that's their choice. Yet they are making a disempowered or fear-based decision by choice (as is aligned with the concept of free will to make our own choices - no judgment).
Be careful and trust your gut when getting involved with any new person, church, religion or Spiritual/New Age organization or community.
If you get a good vibe from someone and they feel sincere then let that be your guide. You decide who you believe. Like all religions, individual Spiritual practitioners, or psychic mediums there are dishonest or manipulative people. I'm spiritual and respect all religions in the world that are practiced with good intentions and honesty, based on love and caring for all others.
Honor and utilize your gift of free will every day and in every decision and action you take. Come from a place of empowerment, freedom and abundance when you make choices; not fear, worry, stress or helplessness.
I have seen so many different opinions on this subject that I thought I would write a blog about it. Here is my perspective on this subject as a professional psychic and medium.
This article does not pertain to “psychics” or “mediums” who are scam artists, feeding off others fears, insecurities or grief for financial gain. People like that give genuine, sincere psychics and mediums like me and others a very bad rap. Like all professions there are unscrupulous individuals who do not respect other people or themselves.
I started doing psychic/medium reading for others for free or barter like many other reputable psychics today, probably much longer than I should have. I will tell you why I say “longer than I should have”; once I started getting the messages from my Spirit Guides that it was an enormous positive energy exchange and that someone needs to give something of real value to them to get something of real value, I simply ignored it.
What happened next was not really shocking but an eye-opener for me.
There seems to be a psychic on every corner nowadays. Like everyone I see a new psychic business Facebook page, business card, psychic reader advertising locally and all the rest it entails all the time now. Do I think it's good? Yes, I think it shows that we as humans on Earth are coming to a higher awareness and awakening. Some people call this the "ascension."
Things are rapidly changing. The world is shifting, and it's shifting very quickly. We find ourselves in a situation where the clear distinction of people who are truly psychic and open is becoming more and more obvious by the day. On a spiritual and metaphysical level, the energies on the planet have never been so intense. They have also never been so polarized or so clear cut. People say the 'veil' is getting thinner between the our dimension and higher ones and I agree.
As a professional psychic and medium, this global awakening makes me happy beyond words. Yet as with all rapid growth there are downfalls or issues that arise.