Most of us have heard the belief about "life lessons" that we're supposed to be working on while incarnated. I'm here to explain that this is a false concept, regardless of its popularity.
We are not incarnated in this lifetime to learn some never-ending "life lessons" in every interaction and experience we have. We don’t need to resolve our 'lessons' in order to “move forward” or “move up” on some imaginary special ladder of Spiritual achievement.
When our Soul chooses to incarnate it’s not so that we 'learn' or 'grow' as a Soul, we are not in school on Earth. There is no pass or fail. The Earth is our playground.
The reason we joyously choose to reincarnate each lifetime is so that our Soul can have the powerful and diversified experience of being a human on Earth again. We reincarnate to experience all the varied and beautiful things we can only do on Earth. We must also be in the same dimension (Earth) to deal with karma and other things from our past lives.
We are always the powerful creators of our life because we have the gift of 'free will.' Our free will means that we create our life through our choices and actions; the effort we consciously choose to put into creating the life we want
While having many 'life lessons' we have to learn is a popular concept, it is a false one. We are not predestined to "meet up" with someone in this life just because we HAD TO learn 'lessons' from each other, or have a Divinely required experience in any area of our life to learn humility, assertiveness, compassion, poverty, lack, self-respect, victory, etc. What if you don't learn your 'lesson' well? What if you do not "pass" that lesson? It is a fictitious concept and belief system - there are no Divinely required lessons to learn in this life.
Naturally we learn greatly from our experiences in life and with others, but that is very different than having required life lessons.
Before we incarnate, we do choose to meet up with in this lifetime other people (Souls) we have been with in past lives; but we have free will to decide if we will spend a day with them, a month or a lifetime. The other person also has free will to make their own good or bad choices in this life, so we may choose to not interact with them any longer in this life. We are not Divinely required to keep dealing with them if they cause us only pain, especially for some mystical "life lessons."
Be 100% accountable for everything in your life and everything you do. Do not give up your personal authority to a concept just because it has sold many books and classes that requires you to believe that you could actually give up your 'free will' because there is some mystical or even seemingly beneficial required lesson exchange with another person, or some spiritually required life lesson experience.
Here are many common myths and misconceptions in the metaphysical and New Age Communities all over the globe.
This has come up lately and I think it's a great thing to remember ... Stop complaining. It's annoying and nonproductive. You're putting out negative thoughts and words, instead of positive words and drawing abundance to yourself naturally.
It's not just about the person your complaining to and annoying, most importantly it's that words have energy. If you keep saying you hate your job, your life is crappy, you don't have enough money, people are untrustworthy, men suck, you're fat or not pretty enough, someone is annoying, dating is horrible if you're single; lack, lack and more lack .... that's EXACTLY what it will be for you because that is your only frame of reference. And that is by your choice. That is your "free will" in action.
Focus only on the positive aspects of the things that you normally complain about, even if at first there are few positives in your mind, and only say and think positive words. Focus just on the aspects that you like or feel good about.
Or finally take action and clean out that wound thoroughly and let it go. Or wake up and remember that nothing is as bad as you think and that you got this. That you can handle anything with grace, resiliency and dignity.
It will take a few weeks but you can absolutely change your thought patterns with consistent effort. Not perfect effort, there is no such thing, but consistent effort. Let a bad day be just one bad day, start over fresh the next morning.
Embrace how enormously better you will feel about yourself and your life naturally when you eliminate complaining and negative words/thoughts.
As powerful self-directed humans we create our lives one step at a time so if you have to start with just one area of your life you complain about a lot to completely eliminate complaining and moaning about it, do it. Start today. Always be gentle and nonjudgmental with yourself. We are all doing the best we can.
Write down on a piece of paper things that make you happy, words of affirmation, or quotes that you love. Gentle, positive visual reminders. Look at it every morning or carry it with you and look at it throughout the day.
Try meditation or yoga. Try balancing your chakras with a guided meditation on YouTube, there are hundreds of them. Go take a long walk in Nature. Soak in the tub with natural salts and candles. Stop obsessing about your problems. Remove negative people from your life or reduce your contact with them. You never have to feed a negative person or situation.
Watch a comedy and laugh out loud. Every time you start to complain visualize a stop sign and stop. Do something that opens up your creative side. Write down and keep a list of every single thing you have to pay for each month, then put away the money you need from each paycheck for your monthly bills; this is being financially responsible and will feel good. Declutter and simplify your home. Smudge your home. Call someone just to tell them that you love them and only speak happy words. Be kind and helpful to a stranger.
The point is every time you take one step to help yourself you build your self-esteem and you feel better. Calmly focus on solutions to your problems one at a time, don't complain about your problems.
Get out of yourself and your negative self-talk to experience life again. Embrace all the beautiful things about it, let the rest go.
Come from a space of inner peace, positivity and a can-do attitude. Make this conscious choice for yourself today to stop complaining about anything.
I will offer some advice to people when they are going to get a professional psychic or Mediumship reading from someone.
I have been blessed with excellent clients. I can say that almost always when a few clients have not liked a reading with me it is because they are not hearing what they want to hear. Or they had completely unrealistic expectations of what was going to happen.
For example, a client wants to badly get back with someone in a relationship and that's not the guidance or information I'm getting; this upsets the client and then they decide they don't like the reading. While we all understand this resistance, try to be open and listen to what the psychic is saying because your Spirit Guides know what is really going on and what is in your best interest.
Clients can get a reading from somebody else and not realize that that psychic medium just told them what they wanted to hear so they will like them, (or the psychic actually is not that accurate), and the client wants me to duplicate telling them what they want to hear. They're looking for a magical fix to everything so they won't have to put in any more effort or hurt any longer.
That's not what I do. I'm a clear, accurate channel of information from your Spirit Guides and your departed loved ones. Any professional psychic must tell you exactly what they get .... not just what will make the client happy, or like them, or just what you want to hear so you feel better. That serves no one.
Every professional and honest psychic medium does things very differently. Please do not expect someone to do a reading in a way somebody else did.
Also, departed loved ones may give certain validations to one psychic and want to give you different ones in a different reading. The validations departed loved ones give are up to them, they are not up to you. We still have free will even after we pass away.
It's important that people looking for reading understand that you will not always be told that you're going to be fired from a job in a month, or someone you care about is going to break up with you, or about any other major impactful life events that come up in the very near future.
Even the best Psychic in the world can only tell you the information the Spirit Guides give to them. There are many reasons why your guides may not tell you that you're going to be fired in three weeks or something like that. In the few times this has ever happened with a client, guides have always given a lot of advice about potential things like this even if they said they may not happen, but it was up to the CLIENT whether they prepared or not.
If anyone that is involved with the metaphysical community tells you that these things I've written are not true; either they are not professional readers, or they need to reevaluate their beliefs.
I will leave it at this, if any professional psychic or medium could predict every single thing that was going to happen to a client, especially very large possibly negatively impactful things ... they would be a multimillionaire, have a 10 year waiting list and they would always have a perfect life themselves.
As we all know that's not reality, we create our life with our "free will." Our free will means we consciously create our life through our choices and actions. It would negate our gift of free will to constantly be able to have a heads up of things that will make us unhappy. Sometimes the most painful things that ever happened to us were the largest blessings in disguise. We are here to experience life, not to just escape hardship.
Professional readings can profoundly help you to find answers, direction, peace and to how to start creating a beautiful life. Please find someone that you make a connection with and be open to the reading. Leave your expectations at the door. It's not magic. The most satisfying readings clients have had are ones where they are open to all the information and guidance in the reading and then they start putting in real effort and new actions to start building the great life that they want.
The subject of psychic and medium reading rates has come up a lot the last few months. So here goes. . .
Are my rates high? Yes. People need to see my value to want my services, and it's an energy exchange. Clients make a financial AND emotional investment in themselves and the reading by giving something of value (money), to get something of value (a great reading). In today's society, the more we pay for something the more value and worth it has to most people. In many cases this is true.
Any reputable psychic or medium should deliver everything you need regardless of their price. If you pay an expensive reading rate you should get an excellent reading (in theory). Personally, I make sure every one of my clients gets full value during their reading.
BUT you shouldn't pay a purposely over-priced reading rate that reflects somebody's ego or costly overhead, rather than talent.
Do not be mislead to believe that exorbitant rates definitely means that they're "better than the rest" with psychics and mediums. Some practitioners charge a very high rate and are worth every penny, but not all for sure.
I don't normally ever concern myself with what another psychic charges because everyone sets their own value and prices. We are all adults and capable. I'm a New Yorker in that regard - worry about yourself, and there is no competition. People will work with who they are drawn too. Simple right?
When I do notice it's because the psychic or medium, regardless of where they are in the US, is charging exorbitant rates solely because they are chasing fame and wealth, and trying to appear more 'special' or advanced by high prices. They are also doing this at the expense of their client. Not only on their wallets, but the actual readings do not reflect accurate information or integrity, and are not about serving the client's best interest. That is just wrong.
Too many clients have come to me over the last 6 months very disappointed with a really costly reading with another psychic medium, after getting a less than stellar reading. They were let down and out of that money. Most of all, they didn't get what they needed. . . accurate guidance with their issues, or real connections with departed loved ones. They can't get that time, money or effort back. They learned though.
Sometimes the "hype" is just that, someone blowing hot air at you. Once a psychic, medium or healer starts choosing to obsess over fame, power, or making money instead of their clients needs it always goes bad over time.
Some honest, reputable psychic mediums with extravagant rates are okay with only a few clients a week. Others have raised their rates to try to work with mainly wealthy clients, which is perfectly fine to work with who they want to, yet more than a few of these practitioners are losing clients and desperately scrambling for new ones. Or they're trying new avenues for income. It's not likely that they'll admit this to you though.
Someone who may have been good a few years ago can be a completely different psychic or medium today because of their focus, or lack of, on their clients. It becomes all about their ego. This causes a lot of inaccurate information in a reading because they are not a clear and concise channel for your information because they are focused more on themselves then you (and what your guides are saying). Or they can lose interest in listening to and working with clients, burning out.
If you find a psychic or medium you like with a higher reading rate, evaluate if you can afford the reading now, maybe you have to save for a paycheck or two. Getting into financial issues is never a good idea. Be clear with yourself about what you want and need.
A few months ago I decided to do a reading with an "established" Canadian psychic, I wanted some real objectivity. It's rare I even do this. It was a bad experience. I was upset that she completely wasted 10 minutes of my 30-minute expensive reading talking about things that had no relevance to why I called! I have to say that it still has no relevance.
That experience made me even more hyper-aware of listening to my clients needs and your Spirit Guides, and staying out of the reading. A psychic or medium is only a channel or messenger of the information. And hopefully a very good one.
Please choose a psychic or medium who resonates with you and you like. Referrals are great, I built my business on them, but if that person who refers someone to you has not seen that "popular" psychic in a long time, think about checking out others also before deciding.
Also, they may have made a good connection with that psychic medium during their reading, but when you look at that psychic's website if you aren't feeling it, don't call, move on.
A great reading has enormous value to you when it helps you get clarity, healing and helps you start building a beautiful life. Let that be your only guide when choosing a psychic or medium to work with.