QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS ABOUT SPIRIT CONTACT:
Can we really connect with our departed loved ones?
Yes! I have connected with and talked to thousands of departed loved ones for countless people, myself included. When we pass away we have the same 'Soul connections' that we had in our lifetime with people who are alive on Earth. Our departed loved ones are still around us everyday and connect with us every time we need them, regardless of whether you "feel" them or not.
All of your loved ones are together (I get asked that a lot), no one is separated. They do many things in "the Divine" besides visit us everyday and see each other.
During your reading, they can give you guidance, answers that are beneficial for you to know, express their unconditional love for you, and will communicate what they want or need to.
Are our departed loved ones ever still hurting, angry, confused or sad?
No, they are not. Once we leave this physical body we are freed from the human feelings of negativity, anger, guilt, disappointment, emotional or physical pain, confusion and all the rest. They can feel remorse and want to make amends - but they are not attached to the painful depths of these emotions we as humans are. They still have their own opinions about stuff, but it's not of a negative or angry nature, even if they tended to be negative in life. Our loved ones have gone back their 'home' between lives where they feel unconditional love, serenity, learning and healing.
No one comes back to connect with someone they love (or even knew for a short time) to say they are still mad that you spilled paint on the couch at 8 years-old, or holding any grudges, resentments or negative emotions. They have taken full accountability after physical death for all of their actions in their life during their nonjudgmental "Life Review" and feel blissful and whole again, and received all the healing they need.
Departed loved ones also see the things that happened to them during their lifetime in a purposeful, nonjudgmental and objective way (without all the painful, negative human emotions clouding it). They understand that you and others make mistakes, have your own great pain and confusion, and we are just doing our best while on Earth.
We have all had many lifetimes of good and bad - so there is NO judgment, disappointment, expectations of what you should or should not do, anger, resentment, etc., towards us from our departed ever.
How will I know it's my departed loved ones you're speaking with?
Fortunately they give me validations to let you know who they are. Their personality and emotions always come through, and sometimes a physical description, how many children you have or they had, around how long ago they passed away, tell or show me something that is specific to you or to them that I would have no way of knowing, examples of what they did or liked while they were alive, something you have of theirs, just so many ways.
Only sometimes they tell me how they actually passed away when you already know. BUT they always tell how they died if you honestly don't know and ask me to ask them. I have no idea why. Please understand any medium would drown in information if we had to get every detail they wanted to share with you. Departed loved ones are always very kind and good to me as a medium. I love doing mediumship.
Normally all of your departed loved one's validations will be very clear immediately. Our departed loved ones still have 'free will' to express what and how they want to. If Grandma was very feisty in her lifetime she will come through the same way to talk to you now so you recognize her. They can be funny, emotional, healing, encouraging, etc.
I ask you to keep an open mind and let go of any set expectations.
While I try very hard to understand the specific validations they give, if you are testing me or expecting me to mention something very specific, it's your time to connect with your departed loved ones that you may be wasting and miss the real validations they do give. Sometimes after a session a client contacts me back confirming or happily explaining about one validation they had a chance to think about or ask another family member about that they didn't recognize at the time.
Please don't spoon feed me information before or during your session. It's my job as a high-level medium to give you information from the departed Souls you wish to connect with.
Do people go to a different place who were suicides, or very harmful to others in this lifetime after physical death?
Definitively, NO. I feel bad when anyone gives others the false belief that we go to different places after after death, like a punishment or for any reason. People who committed suicide do not come through like a heavy or different energy, or in a different place, or always sad or upset. "The Divine," The Source, or God - whatever your belief is - loves us all the same. We are never judged or punished; every Soul is deeply loved and special.
We ALL go to the same place and there is NO separation based on anything - religion, culture, location, misdeeds; or how we died, etc. There is no such thing as hell, demons, possessions, evil entities, lost angry Souls, etc. That's Hollywood, or psychic mediums that think it's still 1754. That would a punishment and horrible to be "lost" after life, or hanging around unhappy or full of rage, and there is no concept of punishment with the Divine.
The reason we are born each lifetime is for our own Soul to experience being a human on Earth once again. And to love and be loved in return. We're here to engage in the human experience as individual Souls which "the Divine" knows can be very hard, yet very beautiful and rewarding also. The Earth is our playground. We always come with our team of 4-7 Spirit Guides and a team of personal Angels. That's how loved we are.
Everyone has 'free will' to make 100% of our own choices while we are here so some people struggle more with life; with the good and bad choices they make, and with what happens to them, yet we are all loved and cherished the same.
Souls that were very harmful and heinous to others go through a nonjudgmental 'Life Review' after physical death, like all Souls do. Like all Souls they take full accountability for all of their actions in this lifetime.
We all go over every single experience we had during our life at our Life Review after passing, to examine everything in a nonjudgmental and non-punitive way. We thoroughly discuss what we could've done different and why we made the choices we did. We also find out why others did what they did that we did not know at the time (with no judgement). We also talk about all the good we did in life; and the good and life-saving things we did for others that we had no idea in life of the huge impact we made on them and their life. This process is reflective, healing and positive. Every Soul gets as much healing as they need after their Earthly lifetime.
It is believed by some that if a Soul comes back more than one lifetime doing horrible things to others, after their Life Review and during healing, 'the Divine' will take out the tiny portion of the Soul that keeps making horrific choices so they can be free of that.
How long do I have to wait to see you (a medium) after someone I want to connect with has passed away?
For your benefit you may want to wait at least a few weeks to make an appointment with me after the passing of a friend or family member because we are very upset normally right after the passing. I have never had a loved one not come through no matter how long ago or recently they passed.
I have clearly connected with departed loved ones two days after passing. When I first stated doing membership years ago, when I connected with my friend's male friend who died two weeks before, he looked like beautiful swirling energy to me - and I saw his two departed loved ones who had passed before him watching him. One male passed a month before him, and then his grandmother who passed a year before was watching them both. My mediumship has greatly evolved since then, but it was so comforting and amazing to see that myself.
We still have 'free will' even after passing, so it's common and perfectly okay for a Soul to stay around longer after passing if they want to to comfort family and friends, and visit different places until choose to cross over. This would only be for a few weeks at most. Every person when they die (in every lifetime) are always okay and at peace immediately no matter how they died. They are never "lost" or trying to work something out still.
Each Soul is always accompanied by their Master Spirit Guide, Angels and other departed loved ones at physical death. We are never alone, frightened, angry or surprised when we pass. The way we pass away is simply the means in which we go. We do not mourn or are upset after death by the way we left this Earth.
There are no "lost Souls," even if the spirit says they don't know where they are, like in a old house or "haunted" place they are appearing. They are usually just entertaining the ghost hunters or medium talking to them. 'The Divine' and every departed Soul's Master Spirit Guide always know where each Soul is.