QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS ABOUT SPIRIT CONTACT:
Can we really connect with our departed loved ones?
Yes! I have connected with and talked to thousands of departed loved ones for countless people, myself included. When we pass away we have the same 'Soul connections' that we had in our lifetime with people who are alive on Earth. Our departed loved ones are still around and connect with us when we need them.
They can give you guidance, answers that are beneficial for you to know, express their unconditional love for you, and will communicate what they want or need to.
How will I know it's my departed loved ones you're speaking with?
Fortunately they give me validations to let you know who they are. This can be a personality description, physical description, how many children you have or they had, how old you were when they passed away, tell or show me something that is very specific to you or them that I would have no way of knowing, examples of what they did or liked while they were alive, something you have of theirs, special occasions, just so many ways.
Most of your departed loved one's validations will be very clear immediately. Our departed loved ones still have 'free will' to express what and how they want to. If Grandma was very feisty in her lifetime she will come through the same way to talk to you now so you recognize her. They can be funny, emotional, healing, encouraging, etc.
I ask you to keep an open mind and let go of any set expectations.
While I try very hard to understand the specific validations they give, if you are testing me or expecting me to mention something very specific, it's your time to connect with your departed loved ones that you may be wasting and miss the real validations they do give. Sometimes after a session a client contacts me back confirming or happily explaining about one validation they had a chance to think about or ask another family member about that they didn't recognize at the time.
Please don't spoon feed me information before or during your session. It's my job as a high-level medium to give you information from the departed Souls you wish to connect with.
Are our departed loved ones ever still hurting, angry, confused or sad?
No, they are not. Once we leave this physical body we are freed from the human feelings of negativity, anger, guilt, disappointment, emotional or physical pain, confusion and all the rest. They can feel remorse and want to make amends - but they are not attached to the painful depths of these emotions we as humans are. They still have their own opinions about stuff, but it's not of a negative or angry nature, even if they tended to be negative in life. Our loved ones have gone back their 'home' between lives where they feel unconditional love, serenity, learning and healing.
No one comes back to connect with someone they love (or even knew for a short time) to say they are still mad that you spilled paint on the couch at 8 years-old, or holding any grudges, resentments or negative emotions. They have taken full accountability after physical death for all of their actions in their life during their nonjudgmental "Life Review" and learned from them.
Departed loved ones also see the things that happened to them during their lifetime in much more purposeful, nonjudgmental and objective way (without all the painful, negative human emotions clouding it). They understand that you and others make mistakes, have your own great pain and confusion, and have things to work on also while on Earth.
Sometimes a departed family member, or a departed old friend or acquaintance you didn't know well in this life will come to connect with you to express appreciation or caring. We touch more lives than we realize.
Do people go to a different place who were suicides, or very harmful to others in this lifetime after physical death?
Definitively, NO. I feel bad when anyone gives others the false belief that we go to different places after after death, like a punishment or for any reason. People who committed suicide do not come through like a heavy or different energy, or in a different place, or always sad or upset. "The Divine," The Source, or God, whatever your belief is, loves us all the same. We are not judged or punished; every Soul is deeply loved and special.
We all go to the same place and there is NO separation based on anything - religion, culture, location, misdeeds; or level of Soul advancement or 'enlightenment' (except when we go to classrooms/groups/levels to learn more with souls at our similar Soul developmental stage).
The reason we are born is for our own Soul to experience being incarnated on Earth once again. And to love and be loved in return. We're here to engage in the human experience as individual Souls which "the Divine" knows can be very hard, yet very beautiful and rewarding also. We have 'free will' to make 100% of our own choices while we are here so some people struggle more with life; with the good and bad choices they make, and with what happens to them, yet we are all loved and cherished the same.
Souls that were very harmful and heinous to others go through a nonjudgmental 'Life Review' after physical death like all Souls do. Like all Souls they take FULL accountability for all of their actions in this lifetime. They go over every single experience they had during their life to examine it in a nonjudgmental and non-punitive way. They throughly discuss what they could've done different and why they made the choices they did, and also the good they did in life. Every Soul gets as much healing as they need after their Earthly lifetime.
It is believed by some that if a Soul comes back more than one lifetime doing horrible things to others, after their Life Review and during healing, 'the Divine' will take out the tiny portion of the Soul that keeps making horrific choices so they can be free of that.
How long do I have to wait to see you (a medium) after someone I want to connect with has passed away?
For your benefit you may want to wait at least a few weeks to make an appointment with me after the passing of a friend or family member. I have never had a loved one not come through.
My vast experience is varied on this subject. In my experience there is no hard or fast rule. I believe that we still have 'free will' even after passing and it's common for a Soul to stay around longer after passing if they want to to comfort family and friends until they feel ready to cross over. This would only be for a few weeks at most so far in my experience.
I have clearly talked to a departed loved one or close friend or for a client two days after passing (even the same night in a few cases). One time years ago when I was trying to connect with a Soul two weeks after passing they looked like beautiful swirling energy to me and I saw the departed loved ones who had passed before them watching them.
Each Soul is always accompanied by their Master Spirit Guide, Angels and other departed loved ones at physical death. We are never alone, frightened, angry or surprised when we pass. The way we pass away is simply the means in which we go. We do not mourn or are upset after death by the way we left this Earth.
There are no "lost Souls," even if the spirit says they don't know where they are (like in a old house or "haunted" place) they are appearing - 'The Divine' and that Soul's Master Spirit Guide always know where each loved Soul is.