I believe the Five Pillars of our life are:
1. We are each a unique, worthy and special human. Be authentic. Create a life you love on your own terms. Always speak your Truth.
2. Help others when we can. Be a kind, sincere, and very honest person. We are here to connect with others in our own way.
3. We are here to experience life and all its beauty. Be fully present in your daily life, and with others. Choose to live every day with joy.
4. Never give up on yourself or your dreams. Be an adaptable human acting with fortitude and grace. Be resilient and self-discliplined.
5. Let go of the pain that you feel from your past; and whatever is no longer needed. Do not be judgmental or bitter. Heal your wounds. Take nothing personal; let others be who they are.
Too often these days, it is easier to get what you want (or at least feel like it emotionally) by becoming a victim rather than taking the risks and leaving your comfort-zone, to actually achieve more, and strive for something better.
Failure is rejected in our society. Instead it should be embraced and recognized as a rite of passage to a higher-level of achievement and personal satisfaction. The worst part of this is that low achievement really is becoming the new norm for many in modern society.
It has become socially acceptable to “play the role” of the victim.
Notice that I said, “play the role.” I did not say that people are victims, because 99% of the time they are not. We have a lot of control over our situations, and our reactions, but are unwilling to do what we know must be done … the consistent effort, and the extra work and sacrifice.
It is now easier to just “play the role” of the victim.
So, what are the clues that someone is “playing the role” of the victim?
How to overcome a “Scarcity Mindset”
scarcity: insufficient or in short supply
When we think of the word ‘scarcity’, many of us will immediately think about money. It is expensive to live, and many of us concern ourselves by stretching each dollar, or stress over bills.
Scarcity is a MINDSET. This mindset affects us negatively in many other forms - time, relationships, judgment, health, willpower, self-fulfillment, advancement in life, etc. This mindset guarantees that there will never enough, and feelings of low value to what we do have.
Having thoughts and feelings of scarcity (lack) automatically orients the mind towards unfulfilled wants and needs. Scarcity mindset often leads to lapses in self-control while draining our problem-solving skills needed to use good judgment. Willpower also is depleted, which makes you prone to feeling like giving up. People in this state often attend to the urgent needs while neglecting important choices that will have a drastic effect on the future.
It’s important to understand that a scarcity mindset is exactly that: a mindset. We can choose to change our way of thinking to an abundance mindset and open a new world of opportunity and self-satisfaction.
But first, we need to be aware of the pits in order to avoid the fall.