Here are many common myths and misconceptions in the metaphysical and New Age Communities all over the globe.
This has come up lately and I think it's a great thing to remember ... Stop complaining. It's annoying and nonproductive. You're putting out negative thoughts and words, instead of positive words and drawing abundance to yourself naturally.
It's not just about the person your complaining to and annoying, most importantly it's that words have energy. If you keep saying you hate your job, your life is crappy, you don't have enough money, people are untrustworthy, men suck, you're fat or not pretty enough, someone is annoying, dating is horrible if you're single; lack, lack and more lack .... that's EXACTLY what it will be for you because that is your only frame of reference. And that is by your choice. That is your "free will" in action.
Focus only on the positive aspects of the things that you normally complain about, even if at first there are few positives in your mind, and only say and think positive words. Focus just on the aspects that you like or feel good about.
Or finally take action and clean out that wound thoroughly and let it go. Or wake up and remember that nothing is as bad as you think and that you got this. That you can handle anything with grace, resiliency and dignity.
It will take a few weeks but you can absolutely change your thought patterns with consistent effort. Not perfect effort, there is no such thing, but consistent effort. Let a bad day be just one bad day, start over fresh the next morning.
Embrace how enormously better you will feel about yourself and your life naturally when you eliminate complaining and negative words/thoughts.
As powerful self-directed humans we create our lives one step at a time so if you have to start with just one area of your life you complain about a lot to completely eliminate complaining and moaning about it, do it. Start today. Always be gentle and nonjudgmental with yourself. We are all doing the best we can.
Write down on a piece of paper things that make you happy, words of affirmation, or quotes that you love. Gentle, positive visual reminders. Look at it every morning or carry it with you and look at it throughout the day.
Try meditation or yoga. Try balancing your chakras with a guided meditation on YouTube, there are hundreds of them. Go take a long walk in Nature. Soak in the tub with natural salts and candles. Stop obsessing about your problems. Remove negative people from your life or reduce your contact with them. You never have to feed a negative person or situation.
Watch a comedy and laugh out loud. Every time you start to complain visualize a stop sign and stop. Do something that opens up your creative side. Write down and keep a list of every single thing you have to pay for each month, then put away the money you need from each paycheck for your monthly bills; this is being financially responsible and will feel good. Declutter and simplify your home. Smudge your home. Call someone just to tell them that you love them and only speak happy words. Be kind and helpful to a stranger.
The point is every time you take one step to help yourself you build your self-esteem and you feel better. Calmly focus on solutions to your problems one at a time, don't complain about your problems.
Get out of yourself and your negative self-talk to experience life again. Embrace all the beautiful things about it, let the rest go.
Come from a space of inner peace, positivity and a can-do attitude. Make this conscious choice for yourself today to stop complaining about anything.
I will offer some advice to people when they are going to get a professional psychic or Mediumship reading from someone.
I have been blessed with excellent clients. I can say that almost always when a few clients have not liked a reading with me it is because they are not hearing what they want to hear. Or they had completely unrealistic expectations of what was going to happen.
For example, a client wants to badly get back with someone in a relationship and that's not the guidance or information I'm getting; this upsets the client and then they decide they don't like the reading. While we all understand this resistance, try to be open and listen to what the psychic is saying because your Spirit Guides know what is really going on and what is in your best interest.
Clients can get a reading from somebody else and not realize that that psychic medium just told them what they wanted to hear so they will like them, (or the psychic actually is not that accurate), and the client wants me to duplicate telling them what they want to hear. They're looking for a magical fix to everything so they won't have to put in any more effort or hurt any longer.
That's not what I do. I'm a clear, accurate channel of information from your Spirit Guides and your departed loved ones. Any professional psychic must tell you exactly what they get .... not just what will make the client happy, or like them, or just what you want to hear so you feel better. That serves no one.
Every professional and honest psychic medium does things very differently. Please do not expect someone to do a reading in a way somebody else did.
Also, departed loved ones may give certain validations to one psychic and want to give you different ones in a different reading. The validations departed loved ones give are up to them, they are not up to you. We still have free will even after we pass away.
It's important that people looking for reading understand that you will not always be told that you're going to be fired from a job in a month, or someone you care about is going to break up with you, or about any other major impactful life events that come up in the very near future.
Even the best Psychic in the world can only tell you the information the Spirit Guides give to them. There are many reasons why your guides may not tell you that you're going to be fired in three weeks or something like that. In the few times this has ever happened with a client, guides have always given a lot of advice about potential things like this even if they said they may not happen, but it was up to the CLIENT whether they prepared or not.
If anyone that is involved with the metaphysical community tells you that these things I've written are not true; either they are not professional readers, or they need to reevaluate their beliefs.
I will leave it at this, if any professional psychic or medium could predict every single thing that was going to happen to a client, especially very large possibly negatively impactful things ... they would be a multimillionaire, have a 10 year waiting list and they would always have a perfect life themselves.
As we all know that's not reality, we create our life with our "free will." Our free will means we consciously create our life through our choices and actions. It would negate our gift of free will to constantly be able to have a heads up of things that will make us unhappy. Sometimes the most painful things that ever happened to us were the largest blessings in disguise. We are here to experience life, not to just escape hardship.
Professional readings can profoundly help you to find answers, direction, peace and to how to start creating a beautiful life. Please find someone that you make a connection with and be open to the reading. Leave your expectations at the door. It's not magic. The most satisfying readings clients have had are ones where they are open to all the information and guidance in the reading and then they start putting in real effort and new actions to start building the great life that they want.