How to get through Heartbreak and Betrayal
This has recently come up in readings:
There are people that are going to betray or deceive you. Some try to greatly harm you by vilifying you with lies. They will falsely attack your character because they lack integrity. Or they try to harm you in someway.
Acknowledge your feelings, but then you need to deal with them. Don’t unpack and live in the pain, even unknowingly. Don’t feed a negative situation or person any longer. A fire needs oxygen to continue.
Then you need to clean out your emotional wound.
Truly let it go and move on from it. That heinous and sometimes unforgivable behavior belongs to them. Decent humans don’t go around harming others for any reason.
There is never an excuse or justification for people purposely doing harm to someone else. So don’t accept any. People make a conscious choice to be dishonest, unaccountable and harmful to others. That is their “free will” in action.
We often are not going to get an apology, acknowledgment of the betrayal, or justice.
I’m here to tell you you don’t need it.
Rise above the person or the situation and reach deep inside of you to your well of inner strength.￼ Always choose the highroad. This is where you will find your peace of mind. No one can take away your integrity.
Get back in your own lane. Stop focusing on the hurt or betrayal, and start building a life that feels blissful to you. Stop living in pain, fear, anger, resentment, guilt, shame, sadness, or needing it to be different.
Accepting the reality of a situation doesn’t mean that we like it, that it’s okay, or that it’s justified in any way .... It means without any judgment to accept that this happened so you can stop suffering about it and move forward free of it.
Sometimes the catalyst to change can be incredibly painful, but it doesn’t mean it’s not necessary. Often it is a blessing in disguise that we don’t see until later. Don’t get stuck in the pain or loss,
Anytime we lose something that we really wanted it always leaves an opening for something much better to come in. Happiness truly is the best ‘revenge.' The harmful person will continue to be the same dishonest, manipulative, unhappy person they always were.
You will still be the same kind, honest, sincere, good human you always were.
You get to live your life in true freedom because you have integrity and sincerity. They will continue to be in the prison of their negativity, dishonesty, insecurities, and unhappiness.
I’ll pick having a conscience and integrity any day over being a person who harms somebody so they can feel ￼victorious. Trust me, you’re the winner in the situation when this negative person leaves your life. Kick them out if you need to. And never deal with them again.
We are not here to escape all hardship. We’re going to take it on the chin sometimes. But we will choose whether we stay down for the count, or whether we get up and dust ourselves off and move forward building a better life then before.
Life really is beautiful. Focus on the good. Clean out your wounds. Smell the flowers and watch the sunsets. Reach out to friends or family. Let nature soothe you.
But most of all, give yourself full credit for getting through all the hard times. You are a beautiful intuitive human. You deserve nothing but love, happiness and serenity.
Spirit Guides are nonjudgmental, highly evolved Souls who are assigned to us before we are born to help nudge and guide us through life. Many Spirit Guides are with us to patiently and lovingly guide us in this life in a way that is fulfilling and abundant. While we are always loved, protected and helped by our guides, we are the powerful creators of our own life.
Our relationship and connection with our Spirit Guides is sacred and a great honor for both of us.
Spirit Guides never judge us, give up on us, or get exasperated with us; they only deeply love us. They've had many lifetimes so they know what it is to be human.
We have “free will” so our guides don't force us to do anything, we make 100% of our own choices, but they do always try to help and guide us to create a satisfying life.
We do NOT get a whole new guide team (meaning our Master Guide and second in command) every lifetime as believed by many. Why would we? Almost 8 billion humans on the planet and a new team has to be formed with every birth? That is illogical, and would be completely inefficient and unnecessary. Your Master Guide has chose to express their Soul as your Master Guide for a long time, just as you choose to be "you" as a human in this incarnation.
Our Spirit Guides are not our departed loved ones or ancestors. Our departed loved ones can help us and give us messages also.
Spirit Guides are also different from the “Angels” around us. Angels have never incarnated as humans in lifetimes, they have no need to. Many believe they can take human form when needed - for example, to comfort someone if they are seriously injured and alone.
Angels are the closest vibrationally and spiritually to "the Divine," Higher Power or God – whatever your conception of the Divine is. We can be helped by Angels in many ways; they protect, help and deeply love us. Angels have an incredibly huge and loving energy. We each have an Angel team that works with us (like Guardian Angels), but Psychics connect with your Spirit Guides for your intuitive information. That’s what they are there for.
WHO ARE THESE SPIRIT GUIDES?
A professional psychic reading is highly beneficial to get the answers and guidance you need to start moving forward successfully and with clarity. You get the accurate answers and guidance, and the first steps of actions needed at this time with each of your questions so you can start again on the road to a fulfilling life and feel empowered.
Life unfolds naturally, we are not puppets on a string with all things pre-planned. We are faced with choices and decisions every day. We each have the beautiful gift of "free will" to create our life through our conscious choices and actions.
Often when we are hurting, lonely or tired we lose perspective and belief in ourselves. We want something outside of ourselves to magically make us feel good or complete again.
Once in a while, clients come to me and HAVE TO hear certain things to feel better, and want to know magically what will happen with no effort from them to improve their life. And they don't like the reading at the time when that's not what happens. I will not go out of integrity for anyone. It will not help them. Sometimes my real role is to plant seeds for a later time when they are ready to deal with it. That's always okay.
Only you can make your own decisions and take new actions. Support systems are beautiful, but it's your job to take care of yourself. You're the powerful creator of your life.
A private reading with me will help you to make much better decisions with accurate answers and guidance about your situation. Guides never just tell you something that you want to hear so you feel better in the moment. The truth sets us free if we will accept it.
Your Spirit Guides are not going to tell you exactly who your new soulmate will be, what they will look like, and exactly when you will meet them. If any psychic tries to give you a physical description or an exact time frame that's their ego talking to seem "all knowing." Guides will give you information so YOU are more ready when you meet your soulmate, it's up to you if will do whatever is needed to grow and help yourself. Guides can give you information about your new soulmate's personality and traits.
In my readings, when you have any kind of relationship questions your guides will describe the other person's personality and some things about the situation without you telling me anything; after you say their name and relationship. It's not magic, I can't read your mind. Your guides know exactly the situation and then give me the information. I won't know every detail because that would be information overload and is unnecessary.
You receive a lot of emotional healing when you work with me in a private session.
You have to be willing to do the work that is necessary to participate in your own healing. You will have to be willing to look at yourself with new eyes, from a new perspective and as an embodiment of completion and wholeness.
Understand that willingness is the catalyst for great change, which always begins with your intentions and how much effort you will put in. Every human, every day, has a chance to start over or take a new path.
Your Spirit Guides always see you as unique, vibrant, intelligent and competent human. That's because you are. Even when we do not feel that way ourselves. We are so deeply loved, we're never judged or punished. We are always helped, guided and watched over every moment of our life.
Come to a professional psychic reading with your specific questions and an open mind. Leave your expectations and what you really want to hear as answers at the door.
Your Spirit Guide team knows what is in your highest good, and the best way to work with you during your session. No one loves you more or knows you better. I always stay a completely clear channel so your information is accurate and helpful. Let the professional reader do what they know how to do very well. Let go of all needs and expectations. You choose them for a reason.
SOULMATES: A (love) soulmate is almost always someone we've had past lives with, and in many different capacities like close friends, cousins or siblings; not always in a spouse or partner relationship. A soulmate connection can be very intense and profound. But it does not mean that it will work out in this lifetime to be in a satisfying, loving relationship together.
A healthy soulmate will act respectful to you, and always be honest and faithful. They will let you be an independent, capable and happy adult. You get to be who you really are, and have your own interests and friends. You can comfortably speak your truth and be heard. They are dependable and stable; you feel safe with them. You should also have these attributes, while fostering and encouraging all these things in them too.
If someone you think is your soulmate is not doing these things, then that's their "free will" in action. But it means they're not a good match for you in this lifetime. You need to accept the reality of the relationship and take action to move on.
No honest psychic is going to tell you your future soulmate's name, what they look like, how many kids, exactly when you will meet them, etc. That is just to seem "all knowing" or their ego is getting in the way. You can get information about their personalities and personal attributes, and a possible time-frame like a season, but there are no guarantees. Your soulmate may have stuff to work on themselves even if you are ready.
We each have a few soulmates in our lifetime. We get as many as we need. Again, just because someone is a soulmate does not mean it will work out, or we will find true happiness with them.
They have "free will" just like you do to create their life through their choices and actions. So if they are making bad or harmful decisions, or not good to you, it's your responsibility to end the relationship - then clean out your wounds and move forward positively without them.
When we put everything into another person we will always be left feeling like we have nothing if it does not work out. We will always be waiting for something or someone outside of us to make us feel better, make us feel whole and complete, or satisfy what we think is missing. That is all an illusion.
Everything you need for happiness and success is inside of you alone. Our soulmates are just a complement to our life. They are not there to "complete" us. They can add incredible depth and happiness to our life, but you are the powerful creator of YOUR life.
You cannot wait for something magical to happen, or work out just because you really want it to. Be grounded in reality, and focus positively on yourself. You have to help yourself. That is not someone else's job, it's yours.
Some of my clients when looking for their soulmates are so focused outside of themselves because they are almost exclusively looking for a soulmate and love. They stop enjoying life. They start thinking they are not whole. That is their choice, but it is a fallacy.
Sometimes your soulmate will not come into your life until you change your thoughts, actions and behaviors that were not working when you get into relationships historically.
It would be a recipe for disaster with a new person until you change your ways to new self-empowering and productive actions and behaviors that are much more healthy and beneficial to you, not the other person.
It's never about judgment or punishment from our Spirit Guides or "the Divine" when a soulmate relationship doesn't work out - we are never punished or judged. We are always loved and helped. It's about you and others using your beautiful gift of 'free will' to create your own life and make your own choices. To be able to consciously choose your life partner, and the quality of relationships that you have in your life.
Build a life for yourself that you love whether you are in a relationship or not. It's always okay to want love and companionship, but never at the expense of your self-esteem, sense of wholeness, and ability to thrive even if you're single or lonely. We are all beautiful, competent, and worthy adults.
Most of us have heard the belief about "life lessons" that we're supposed to be working on while incarnated. I'm here to explain that this is a false concept, regardless of its popularity.
We are not incarnated in this lifetime to learn some never-ending "life lessons" in every interaction and experience we have. We don’t need to resolve our 'lessons' in order to “move forward” or “move up” on some imaginary special ladder of Spiritual achievement.
When our Soul chooses to incarnate it’s not so that we 'learn' or 'grow' as a Soul, we are not in school on Earth. There is no pass or fail. The Earth is our playground.
The reason we joyously choose to reincarnate each lifetime is so that our Soul can have the powerful and diversified experience of being a human on Earth again. We reincarnate to experience all the varied and beautiful things we can only do on Earth. We must also be in the same dimension (Earth) to deal with karma and other things from our past lives.
We are always the powerful creators of our life because we have the gift of 'free will.' Our free will means that we create our life through our choices and actions; the effort we consciously choose to put into creating the life we want
While having many 'life lessons' we have to learn is a popular concept, it is a false one. We are not predestined to "meet up" with someone in this life just because we HAD TO learn 'lessons' from each other, or have a Divinely required experience in any area of our life to learn humility, assertiveness, compassion, poverty, lack, self-respect, victory, etc. What if you don't learn your 'lesson' well? What if you do not "pass" that lesson? It is a fictitious concept and belief system - there are no Divinely required lessons to learn in this life.
Naturally we learn greatly from our experiences in life and with others, but that is very different than having required life lessons.
Before we incarnate, we do choose to meet up with in this lifetime other people (Souls) we have been with in past lives; but we have free will to decide if we will spend a day with them, a month or a lifetime. The other person also has free will to make their own good or bad choices in this life, so we may choose to not interact with them any longer in this life. We are not Divinely required to keep dealing with them if they cause us only pain, especially for some mystical "life lessons."
Be 100% accountable for everything in your life and everything you do. Do not give up your personal authority to a concept just because it has sold many books and classes that requires you to believe that you could actually give up your 'free will' because there is some mystical or even seemingly beneficial required lesson exchange with another person, or some spiritually required life lesson experience.