This has come up lately and I think it's a great thing to remember ... Stop complaining. It's annoying and nonproductive. You're putting out negative thoughts and words, instead of positive words and drawing abundance to yourself naturally.
It's not just about the person your complaining to and annoying, most importantly it's that words have energy. If you keep saying you hate your job, your life is crappy, you don't have enough money, people are untrustworthy, men suck, you're fat or not pretty enough, someone is annoying, dating is horrible if you're single; lack, lack and more lack .... that's EXACTLY what it will be for you because that is your only frame of reference. And that is by your choice. That is your "free will" in action.
Focus only on the positive aspects of the things that you normally complain about, even if at first there are few positives in your mind, and only say and think positive words. Focus just on the aspects that you like or feel good about.
Or finally take action and clean out that wound thoroughly and let it go. Or wake up and remember that nothing is as bad as you think and that you got this. That you can handle anything with grace, resiliency and dignity.
It will take a few weeks but you can absolutely change your thought patterns with consistent effort. Not perfect effort, there is no such thing, but consistent effort. Let a bad day be just one bad day, start over fresh the next morning.
Embrace how enormously better you will feel about yourself and your life naturally when you eliminate complaining and negative words/thoughts.
As powerful self-directed humans we create our lives one step at a time so if you have to start with just one area of your life you complain about a lot to completely eliminate complaining and moaning about it, do it. Start today. Always be gentle and nonjudgmental with yourself. We are all doing the best we can.
Write down on a piece of paper things that make you happy, words of affirmation, or quotes that you love. Gentle, positive visual reminders. Look at it every morning or carry it with you and look at it throughout the day.
Try meditation or yoga. Try balancing your chakras with a guided meditation on YouTube, there are hundreds of them. Go take a long walk in Nature. Soak in the tub with natural salts and candles. Stop obsessing about your problems. Remove negative people from your life or reduce your contact with them. You never have to feed a negative person or situation.
Watch a comedy and laugh out loud. Every time you start to complain visualize a stop sign and stop. Do something that opens up your creative side. Write down and keep a list of every single thing you have to pay for each month, then put away the money you need from each paycheck for your monthly bills; this is being financially responsible and will feel good. Declutter and simplify your home. Smudge your home. Call someone just to tell them that you love them and only speak happy words. Be kind and helpful to a stranger.
The point is every time you take one step to help yourself you build your self-esteem and you feel better. Calmly focus on solutions to your problems one at a time, don't complain about your problems.
Get out of yourself and your negative self-talk to experience life again. Embrace all the beautiful things about it, let the rest go.
Come from a space of inner peace, positivity and a can-do attitude. Make this conscious choice for yourself today to stop complaining about anything.
I will offer some advice to people when they are going to get a professional psychic or Mediumship reading from someone.
I have been blessed with excellent clients. I can say that almost always when a few clients have not liked a reading with me it is because they are not hearing what they want to hear. Or they had completely unrealistic expectations of what was going to happen.
For example, a client wants to badly get back with someone in a relationship and that's not the guidance or information I'm getting; this upsets the client and then they decide they don't like the reading. While we all understand this resistance, try to be open and listen to what the psychic is saying because your Spirit Guides know what is really going on and what is in your best interest.
Clients can get a reading from somebody else and not realize that that psychic medium just told them what they wanted to hear so they will like them, (or the psychic actually is not that accurate), and the client wants me to duplicate telling them what they want to hear. They're looking for a magical fix to everything so they won't have to put in any more effort or hurt any longer.
That's not what I do. I'm a clear, accurate channel of information from your Spirit Guides and your departed loved ones. Any professional psychic must tell you exactly what they get .... not just what will make the client happy, or like them, or just what you want to hear so you feel better. That serves no one.
Every professional and honest psychic medium does things very differently. Please do not expect someone to do a reading in a way somebody else did.
Also, departed loved ones may give certain validations to one psychic and want to give you different ones in a different reading. The validations departed loved ones give are up to them, they are not up to you. We still have free will even after we pass away.
It's important that people looking for reading understand that you will not always be told that you're going to be fired from a job in a month, or someone you care about is going to break up with you, or about any other major impactful life events that come up in the very near future.
Even the best Psychic in the world can only tell you the information the Spirit Guides give to them. There are many reasons why your guides may not tell you that you're going to be fired in three weeks or something like that. In the few times this has ever happened with a client, guides have always given a lot of advice about potential things like this even if they said they may not happen, but it was up to the CLIENT whether they prepared or not.
If anyone that is involved with the metaphysical community tells you that these things I've written are not true; either they are not professional readers, or they need to reevaluate their beliefs.
I will leave it at this, if any professional psychic or medium could predict every single thing that was going to happen to a client, especially very large possibly negatively impactful things ... they would be a multimillionaire, have a 10 year waiting list and they would always have a perfect life themselves.
As we all know that's not reality, we create our life with our "free will." Our free will means we consciously create our life through our choices and actions. It would negate our gift of free will to constantly be able to have a heads up of things that will make us unhappy. Sometimes the most painful things that ever happened to us were the largest blessings in disguise. We are here to experience life, not to just escape hardship.
Professional readings can profoundly help you to find answers, direction, peace and to how to start creating a beautiful life. Please find someone that you make a connection with and be open to the reading. Leave your expectations at the door. It's not magic. The most satisfying readings clients have had are ones where they are open to all the information and guidance in the reading and then they start putting in real effort and new actions to start building the great life that they want.
The subject of psychic and medium reading rates has come up a lot the last few months. So here goes. . .
Are my rates high? Yes. People need to see my value to want my services, and it's an energy exchange. Clients make a financial AND emotional investment in themselves and the reading by giving something of value (money), to get something of value (a great reading). In today's society, the more we pay for something the more value and worth it has to most people. In many cases this is true.
Any reputable psychic or medium should deliver everything you need regardless of their price. If you pay an expensive reading rate you should get an excellent reading (in theory). Personally, I make sure every one of my clients gets full value during their reading.
BUT you shouldn't pay a purposely over-priced reading rate that reflects somebody's ego or costly overhead, rather than talent.
Do not be mislead to believe that exorbitant rates definitely means that they're "better than the rest" with psychics and mediums. Some practitioners charge a very high rate and are worth every penny, but not all for sure.
I don't normally ever concern myself with what another psychic charges because everyone sets their own value and prices. We are all adults and capable. I'm a New Yorker in that regard - worry about yourself, and there is no competition. People will work with who they are drawn too. Simple right?
When I do notice it's because the psychic or medium, regardless of where they are in the US, is charging exorbitant rates solely because they are chasing fame and wealth, and trying to appear more 'special' or advanced by high prices. They are also doing this at the expense of their client. Not only on their wallets, but the actual readings do not reflect accurate information or integrity, and are not about serving the client's best interest. That is just wrong.
Too many clients have come to me over the last 6 months very disappointed with a really costly reading with another psychic medium, after getting a less than stellar reading. They were let down and out of that money. Most of all, they didn't get what they needed. . . accurate guidance with their issues, or real connections with departed loved ones. They can't get that time, money or effort back. They learned though.
Sometimes the "hype" is just that, someone blowing hot air at you. Once a psychic, medium or healer starts choosing to obsess over fame, power, or making money instead of their clients needs it always goes bad over time.
Some honest, reputable psychic mediums with extravagant rates are okay with only a few clients a week. Others have raised their rates to try to work with mainly wealthy clients, which is perfectly fine to work with who they want to, yet more than a few of these practitioners are losing clients and desperately scrambling for new ones. Or they're trying new avenues for income. It's not likely that they'll admit this to you though.
Someone who may have been good a few years ago can be a completely different psychic or medium today because of their focus, or lack of, on their clients. It becomes all about their ego. This causes a lot of inaccurate information in a reading because they are not a clear and concise channel for your information because they are focused more on themselves then you (and what your guides are saying). Or they can lose interest in listening to and working with clients, burning out.
If you find a psychic or medium you like with a higher reading rate, evaluate if you can afford the reading now, maybe you have to save for a paycheck or two. Getting into financial issues is never a good idea. Be clear with yourself about what you want and need.
A few months ago I decided to do a reading with an "established" Canadian psychic, I wanted some real objectivity. It's rare I even do this. It was a bad experience. I was upset that she completely wasted 10 minutes of my 30-minute expensive reading talking about things that had no relevance to why I called! I have to say that it still has no relevance.
That experience made me even more hyper-aware of listening to my clients needs and your Spirit Guides, and staying out of the reading. A psychic or medium is only a channel or messenger of the information. And hopefully a very good one.
Please choose a psychic or medium who resonates with you and you like. Referrals are great, I built my business on them, but if that person who refers someone to you has not seen that "popular" psychic in a long time, think about checking out others also before deciding.
Also, they may have made a good connection with that psychic medium during their reading, but when you look at that psychic's website if you aren't feeling it, don't call, move on.
A great reading has enormous value to you when it helps you get clarity, healing and helps you start building a beautiful life. Let that be your only guide when choosing a psychic or medium to work with.
How do we center and ground ourselves? How do we do this as empath's especially?
Being "centered" means having a reference point, a place to come back to when life, emotions and stress push you off balance.
Being centered is that kind of dynamic balance point. It doesn’t mean we are always there, it means we always know where to go back to. Being centered is feeling connected to yourself, and being aware of yourself positively and peacefully when you get temporarily lost.
Being "grounded" means that you're wholly present in your own body, and connected with the Earth, allowing you to feel centered and balanced no matter what's going on around you.
An empath is someone who is hypersensitive to other people's energy and emotions. So naturally it's easy for an empath to feel not centered or grounded when there is a lot of stuff going on around them.
As an empath, a 'centering' tool you can try is try is to turn off your empathy when you are being bounced by someone or taking on their emotions. Train yourself to be more positively self-focused all the time. Try to be in the moment and aware of how you actually feel, separating yourself from someone else's energy and emotions. This is a mental state where you are profoundly aware of yourself and your own feelings; where the inner state is louder and speaks to you more clearly than what is going on around you. Focus positively on yourself, not what is going on around you.
This means that no matter what is going on, we stay balanced, centered and aligned with our Soul and higher self and we are better able to control our reactive, knee jerk, defensive behavioral patterns of our ego. We can get back to calmness inside of us no matter what is going on around us.
Every time we make even one simple decision at a time to help ourselves, this leads to staying centered, grounded and feeling good.
Some techniques that help us to stay centered and grounded:
It's impossible for any living person, disincarnated Soul or anything to negate your 'free will' by imposing their will on you without your consent.
You would have to accept and believe that someone could "curse" you; and they "curse" you by saying you are going to have hardship with money (for example). Then YOU would have to keep making negative choices with your money and start having money problems, like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
People can believe they have a curse or spell on them that's "making them" make bad choices or that they have no control over that aspect of their life when there is literally nothing there (no one is directing anything negative at them). They become very upset and continue, by choice, to take no responsibility for what they are actually creating over and over. That is conscious choice to do this, not some mystical spell or curse on you.
That means there is NO such thing as spells, curses, directing negative thoughts at you that can harm you, or any spirit or "entity" energetically trying to feed off of you, etc. The Divine chose for every Soul to be self-directed and in charge at all times of the life we create by using our gift of 'free will' without negative interference.
We are always highly protected and helped by "the Divine", our Spirit Guides, Angels, and our departed loved ones. Even our highly competent Spirit Guides do not force us do anything because they cannot negate our free will, nor do they want to. So how could some bitter, self-involved person override our gift of free will with a curse or spell? They cannot.
BEWARE of any psychic, medium or healer that you are paying, or attending a group or class of theirs who fraudulently tells you that says:
All these things listed above are all nonsense and unethical. They are hermetic, archaic negative beliefs. We live in 2018, not 1687. Embrace your ability to powerfully and authentically create your life with your gift of free will unencumbered.
A psychic or medium who does any of the things listed above is doing this is trying to get your money, they are fear-based in their thinking, or because it makes them feel powerful. They prey on the mentally fragile, grieving and unaware clients so don't buy it. I have dealt with many clients that I had to explain what was really going on after they went to a psychic that operates like this and tell them the truth.
You alone are in charge of your free will. You can't negate someone else's free will just because you want them back (and vise versa).
Some people unknowingly drain you energetically who are "psychic vampires" (someone who drains other people for their positive energy instead of getting it from Divine Source). A psychic vampire is that friend, family member, co-worker that you feel exhausted after talking to them for 30 minutes. All you have to do is say to your Spirit Guides or think is, "I don't allow you to interfere with my free will. You cannot be in my energetic space trying to drain me." It will stop, your gift of free will demands this. Consciously in your mind give back to them their anxiety, depression, anger, etc., and then tell yourself confidently that you're okay and strong.
People who honestly believe they are under "Demonic Possession" or under 'demonic' attack, alien influence, being taken over by some force, etc., are in reality mentally ill and not understanding what's happening to them. Or they're being told that there are these things happening to them so don't believe it! They should get away completely from the negative person saying these things, and seek professional Counseling if needed.
Can you get a bothersome or "teenage troublemaker" departed Soul playfully doing stuff around you? Yes. In reality it's not common, simply tell them to get out of your space and don't come back. They have to leave because it's your energetic space governed by your gift of free will. That means you are in charge of the energy in your home. If it makes you feel more empowered to also smudge your house with white sage or whatever feels right then do so.
Sometimes a person may not be aware that they are sensitive to spirits and departed Souls so when they sense something it scares them so they start believing it's "bad" or negative when it's not.
I have seen a people with good intentions who know they are sensitive to sensing spirits and departed Souls say they see something negative because it "looks dark" or "has a dark face," and simply because it is not clear to them they jump to the wrong conclusion that it is evil, scary or negative. They believe if they ask who it is, or try to communicate with it they will accidentally "invite it to stay" or will be bothered by it. Those are hollywood horror movie beliefs, not real life. This is a common misconception in the Spiritual Development community.
The point to remember is that 'The Divine' chose for every Soul to be self-directed and in charge at all times of the life we create by using our gift of 'free will' without interference. Nothing can negate that.
You have 100% accountability and responsibility for your life, your thoughts and all the choices you make. You alone create your life through the choices and actions you take using your ability of 'free will.' It's the Universal Law of 'Divine Will' (free will) from the Divine that demands this.
I understand that many people don't know, understand or accept these facts about our 'free will' as Truth, and that's their choice. Yet they are making a disempowered or fear-based decision by choice (as is aligned with the concept of free will to make our own choices - no judgment).
Be open-minded, sensible and trust your gut when getting involved with any new person, church, religion, and Spiritual or New Age organization or community.
If you get a good vibe from someone and they feel sincere then let that be your guide. If that changes then walk away, no explanations are needed. You decide who you believe, and what you believe. Like all religions, individual Spiritual practitioners, Shamans, gurus, psychic mediums, and healers there are dishonest and manipulative people. I'm Spiritual, and I respect all religions and spiritual practices in the world that are practiced with good intentions and honesty, based on love and caring for all others.
Honor and utilize your gift of free will every day and in every decision and action you take. Come from a place of empowerment, freedom and abundance when you make choices; not fear, worry, stress or helplessness.